This article was inspired by someone who’s words I read
by the name of Dana and various thoughts I’ve had recently. I have many sayings
about Happiness on Inspirations for You. Dana’s recipe for living
is similar to mine in ways…her words are highlighted (in bold print) so you can distinguish
them from mine. Sometimes, we as westerners, leave it to folk in
other countries to experience moments of bliss. It somehow seems a luxury to
us, we need to go on an expensive holiday or something – the great escape! But
many people in certain countries have developed the art of peaceful meditations
and tranquil moments in quite difficult situations, that helps strengthen them
because they give themselves time to raise their thoughts above their
circumstances. They also have an appreciation or consciousness of something
greater than themselves that helps them to break away from cares and concerns –
even in the midst of them. How do they
do this? They make it a purpose to! While I do not encourage religious pursuits
because of the bondage that each one presents, we in the west have developed an
independence from God or anything pertaining to Him. The education system has
done us no favors but has served to hinder a natural sense in us we are born
with, of a Creator-God. That’s why there are so many religions in the world –
it is man’s efforts to find and relate to Him in some way. But Jesus (no religion
added, just His words) came to bring Him to us (God manifest) to show us what
He is really like (without hang-ups) and how to relate with Him without
complications. Why go to the Dalai Lama for Peace and Joy? Because Jesus is the
true source of Peace and Joy. Ask Him to become real to you. Yes, a simple walk with Jesus does give us a
cutting edge above circumstances, right in the midst of them because He
said “the Peace I give is not that of the world (that comes and goes) but I say
to you that this Peace is to be found in Me”….when Jesus comes into your heart
(invited) He becomes your Resting Place, and you can come aside in His Presence
each day..... “in His presence there is fullness of Joy”….so like the saying goes,
religion is to be endured but Jesus is to be enjoyed. Why did they add
religion? Because man is very religious, weather he is for God or Anti-God.
Everyone has a belief system, I make sure mine is simple – just Jesus! What is the secret to bliss?
I can mention a few. Dana said, sometimes we place our lives on hold, telling ourselves things
like, "I can't be happy until X is accomplished or until Y is over."
For instance, it could be until I have a relationship, new work or my love-one
is in better health. To experience true bliss, it's essential to practice being
happy in the midst of all these challenges. Here are some tips that can help you find some personal
bliss: Teach your thoughts how to dance toward the light. Your mind needs direction; direct it toward the light. Consciously push yourself from self-destructive thinking to self-discovery, from judgment to observation. Activities like
reading Pleasant and Uplifting Poems and Visual Meditation are great for this. A little day-dreaming is good to let your thoughts roam free. It’s like oxygen
and resets your brain. Break away more often. Maybe you have a nice spot on a patio or a lawn
where you can stretch and laydown in the sunshine or breeze. Yes, that is nice,
now and then….maybe there’s a nice shady tree in a park. You can absorb the
atmosphere around you. You could do this occasionally. Yes, afford yourself the
luxury of dismissing the world and busy agendas, so you can have a slice of
peace and content. Why save that for holidays? We don’t allow ourselves enough
time to wind down – we save that for bedtime, and actually, we would be better
winding down with dim light and music or relaxed reading before going to bed.
Maybe have a bubble bath on weekends (bubbles are very therapeutic). Even a
foot-spa can be good or treat yourself to some air-filled fragrance with
essential oils of your choice – a fresh blend that clears the mind or floral
that brings beauty to mind. Yes, afford yourself some holiday-mode in your
thoughts, as it were, on a frequent basis. Most of us – these days – allow
ourselves little respite in this busy world. You need rest and you also need
respite. Experience music – Art – Crafts Awakening
happiness is a daily practice that requires routines and rituals. Set your day
up so something wonderful happens. Play
music in your house, car and at the office (if possible). Commit to writing,
singing or dancing each morning - or experiencing others' artistic expressions
in a fully-engaged way - chose your own art form. Crafts are so
creative, such a joy and so rewarding. Before 10 years ago, I’ve never been a
crafts person. I was having a break from research work and lost for something
to do and craft cards appealed to me. I
have been making them from time to time since. I love them, and it’s given me a
passion that has also brought happiness to family and friends. There’s wisdom in Forgiveness Forgiveness
allows us to do everything more deeply. Let yourself smile again. Break it out
and allow compassion to be your inner guide and awaken your heart. You forgive someone by cancelling their debt of
offense and not keeping them alive in your thoughts. Don’t wait to feel nice,
it’s a simple act of your will….wish them well in your thoughts if you can….that’s
a good grudge-slayer….then you get to live free of it. If you have a problem with that (you’d rather not)
it is zapping your Zest for Life. Be kind to yourself and make some brain space
to enjoy life….say to yourself “no mental real-estate here.” The bigger you
let your heart be, the less things will crowd you in and the pressure gives
way. Dana’s right, you
can live life more fully when someone stops weighing on your mind. You feel so much lighter
and brighter. Acquire some Spontaneity and Discovery Learn something
new every day. Learning keeps us inspired, drenched in enthusiasm and forever
young. It awakens our sense of wonder. It’s already there. You just have to
lift the veil so you can feel it and live it. There are little things we can learn in when
appreciating life around us – an awareness of the pleasant things here and
there as we go about our day. If this does not work for you, learn to be a
rut-breaker and establish a new routine – maybe an early morning or evening
walk, taking in the atmosphere and letting your thoughts be healthy. Try to do
something spontaneous each day. Give things away and let love in. When you feel
connected, you feel bliss. We suffer when we feel separate. So, do whatever you
can to feel connected and to help others feel connected. It could be through some
service and projects. Or even just by the way you smile at someone
down the street or in a café.
Compliments are free to give away. You may have changed another person's
life
in ways you will never know. If you can’t think of any or maybe a little
shy,
give free smiles away. It’s amazing how smiles will cheer you up as well
– it’s
part of your happiness-chemistry – you will feel like a generous person
for making
the effort. It helps you step out of yourself and concerns each time you
engage
in this. Send occasional cards to love-ones and friends - make an
occasion for them to be happy this way. You can hand a little gift to
them especially wrapped, when it is'nt their birthday and see the
surprise it brings them. Your oxytocin level will go up - yours and
theirs. That's a special feel-good substance that is released in our body when something brings
us much pleasure. It's the same chemical that is released when a mother
feeds a baby; we sing in the shower or have a nice bubble bath; we
smell the roses or a fragrant essential oil; we listen to some soft
beautiful music; we stroll in a park on a nice sunny day or along the
shoreline at the beach with the fresh sea breeze; we set off in the car
on a holiday. It's well documented for when someone gives you a nice
hug. Thanks and
Gratitude Say
Thank You more often and think of your blessings. These two words
are potent and highly charged with bliss. Gratitude is saying yes to life.
Wanting and appreciating what you have and have been given in this lifetime, no
matter how big or small, it’s a practice of contentment. It keeps positive
energy flowing. You already have all the ingredients for a beautiful
life. Love them. Live them. Look after your Energy Level For all of us,
there are things that occur each day – and sometimes said – that are unpleasant
and cause negative thoughts and emotions….that are Negative Energy we don’t
need. In other words, it deficits our Positive Energy. You know the saying
about something that “saps our energy?” that’s why. But Thanks and Gratitude –
sometimes prayer – helps to balance our energy levels by restoring our Comfort
Zone. You don’t need an energy-worker for that. They can bring you other
complications – namely your pocket and a dependency on someone else. It would be an
expensive exercise. Really speaking,
our energy level should be as natural as the food you eat and the air you
breathe. Give yourself the
most positive environment you can, pleasant company if possible (when it comes
to listening). Lend yourself the practice of fresh air and exercise and good
nutrition. You would be surprised how each one of these favor your energy and
sense of well-being. For me, prayer is
the Ultimate because it’s personal relating with Jesus who is there 24/7 Not some
religious exercise. My motto: If someone has to tell you to do something, there’s no Joy in
it (or peace either). Someone said: "You carry all the ingredients to turn your
life into a bad dream, don't mix them!… ...You carry all the ingredients to turn your
existence into a happy one, Mix them, mix Them!" And Dana said: “Being a happy person is a practice, where in the midst of your life's daily
demands and challenges, you practice being - and chose to be - happy and free.
Sure, it's great to follow a recipe, especially in the beginning, but then you
must make it your own. You must experiment and see what you discover, coming up
with your own signature dish.” And be not unsettled or resistant about God….a
spiritual walk could be the very thing you need to change things around for
you. We all have a spirit and long to be satisfied in that area. Try not to
make the mistake of going for religion or new-age. Jesus satisfies because He is a Person, the
Friend of Friends….He is referred to as a Personal Savior….that’s because He
is! Spend time in His presence each day – like you do with a love-one, and
never look back. If you are not ready for that, I have shown you
ways to enhance your daily life. For me – after years of resistance – Jesus brings
Peace to my heart and Joy in my steps. Inner Peace and Happiness, that’s what
most people long for, is’nt it? To have Him on the inside is Peace to me and
Joy on the outside because of a Reason to be Living – He has brought to me. Whatever you benefit from in this article I wish you
well. Look at it as if I wrote it personally to you. Janet |